April 21, 2008 8:25 AM
Bisbee condoms - time to rethink teen sexuality
Remember the Bisbee Arizona prom condom giveaway? Last night Steven Reed, a Bisbee parent, left this comment on my blog - I'm printing verbatim:
OK heres how we in bisbee look at it. How many kids in the us are having sex at very young ages and NOT usun g protection. I am a parent of 3 kids and i have friends that go to BHS and i applod the school district for allowing this not 1 year but 2 years in a row.i would much rather know that there having safe sex or no sex than unprotected sex.!!!
I think what is going to cause the final breakdown in our country is parents with such lowered expectations. And institutions that spend millions promoting abstinence from cigarettes and drugs while giving away condoms, implying approval of teen sex.
Anyway, the answer to Mr. Steven Reed was in my Inbox yesterday in a link forwarded by my hubby. I've snipped some highlights below - emphasizing some vital thoughts for parents. But the article - and the backup information on the 3 Truths - are worth reading and pondering, Mr. Reed:
Straight Talk About Casual Sex
By Janice Shaw CrouseIt's not news to anybody these days - not if they watch any television or glance at the covers of the magazines lining the checkout counters at the grocery stores - that we live in a sex-saturated society where supposedly the majority of young people are "doing it . . ."
The secular mantra, heard from middle school on up, is that sex will make you popular and happy; it's great recreation that is free and fun.
There is a mountain of media out there promoting a phony philosophy about the joys of casual, risky sexual experimentation; one need look no further than the junk advice featured in magazines like Cosmopolitan to see just how pernicious it is. Even the relationship advice columns in many daily newspapers spread the expectation of sexual activity even for the youngest of our teens. This assault will not be neutralized until a brigade of those who know better find their voices to convince today's Sex in the City generation of young women that only discipline and restraint - it is having an attitude that says, "I won't mess up my tomorrows by fooling around today" - will open the gateway to achieving their dreams and ambitions. [my emphasis]
The time for some straight talk about casual sex is long overdue. Every young person needs to know the following three truths:
Truth #1: Casual sex impairs the ability to establish a lasting emotional bond. . . .
Truth #2: Casual sex leaves young people alone and lonely. . . .
Truth #3: The so-called "sexual revolution" has produced dramatic increases in sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). . .
A young person's choices about sex reveal his or her attitudes about others. Is sexual activity merely fun and games? No. Treating sex as something casual can never actually make it a casual matter. . .
Sexual intercourse can be an intense and pleasurable experience, but it is more - much more. Sexual intimacy triggers the strongest and deepest, most exhilarating passions in life. Its purpose is to bond a man and a woman into "one flesh" in the deepest intimacy that human beings can share. . . .
It is impossible to ignore or dictate to nature. Young people need to choose carefully. Sex can never be free; choices always have consequences. We cannot expect young people to act responsibly when adults - whose thinking is sometimes clouded by their rationalization of their own hurtful and toxic sexual experimentation - are irresponsible by not providing the best possible information to encourage self-discipline and self-control, which are the surest keys to young peoples' long-term well-being. [my emphasis]
Read entire article here
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Comments
I am a student at Bisbee high!!! I believe that they should have put the condoms in bathroom and not in the bags. that way who ever wants one they are free to take it. Some people could be offended by the the condoms in the bag. thats my point on it
Posted by: Elisabeth | April 21, 2008 10:55 PM
