June 25, 2009 8:53 AM
Jenny Sanford releases statement in response to Mark Sanford affair
First lady: Reconciliation possible
Jenny Sanford says governor 'has earned a chance to resurrect marriage'
South Carolina first lady Jenny Sanford issued this statement after her husband's press conference Wednesday:
I would like to start by saying I love my husband and I believe I have put forth every effort possible to be the best wife I can be during our almost twenty years of marriage. As well, for the last fifteen years my husband has been fully engaged in public service to the citizens and taxpayers of this state and I have faithfully supported him in those efforts to the best of my ability. I have been and remain proud of his accomplishments and his service to this state.
I personally believe that the greatest legacy I will leave behind in this world is not the job I held on Wall Street, or the campaigns I managed for Mark, or the work I have done as First Lady or even the philanthropic activities in which I have been routinely engaged. Instead, the greatest legacy I will leave in this world is the character of the children I, or we, leave behind. It is for that reason that I deeply regret the recent actions of my husband Mark, and their potential damage to our children.
I believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity, dignity and importance of the institution of marriage. I believe that has been consistently reflected in my actions. When I found out about my husband's infidelity I worked immediately to first seek reconciliation through forgiveness, and then to work diligently to repair our marriage. We reached a point where I felt it was important to look my sons in the eyes and maintain my dignity, self-respect, and my basic sense of right and wrong. I therefore asked my husband to leave two weeks ago.
This trial separation was agreed to with the goal of ultimately strengthening our marriage. During this short separation it was agreed that Mark would not contact us. I kept this separation quiet out of respect of his public office and reputation, and in hopes of keeping our children from just this type of public exposure. Because of this separation, I did not know where he was in the past week.
I believe enduring love is primarily a commitment and an act of will, and for a marriage to be successful, that commitment must be reciprocal. I believe Mark has earned a chance to resurrect our marriage.
Psalm 127 states that sons are a gift from the Lord and children a reward from Him. I will continue to pour my energy into raising our sons to be honorable young men. I remain willing to forgive Mark completely for his indiscretions and to welcome him back, in time, if he continues to work toward reconciliation with a true spirit of humility and repentance.
This is a very painful time for us and I would humbly request now that members of the media respect the privacy of my boys and me as we struggle together to continue on with our lives and as I seek the wisdom of Solomon, the strength and patience of Job and the grace of God in helping to heal my family.
How a man could give up a woman with such integrity and class, I do not know. And the mother of four sons!
Let's pray fervently that this story is not over and that God would be glorified! Let's pray that men of influence would not stand by neutrally, but would use this as an opportunity to show how the community of Christ can help restore a fallen brother!
I hadn't seen Jenny Sanford's response until now. What character.
I will write what I did on a friend's blog just a few minutes ago. He also had a post about the situation w/admonitions about avoiding and preventing this kind of thing in our own lives.
I know Sanford was just rambling at the news conference (I saw clips, but read a more extensive account), but, still, you wonder if he gets it. He said, "I hurt her. I hurt you all. I hurt my wife. I hurt my boys..." I understand that he was all over the map in his verbal meanderings, but I think the one that was probably the most hurt was his poor wife.
It is a sobering reminder that marriage is fragile (in terms of outside sources being able to destroy it, and that we're sinners married to sinners), and must be protected w/a vengeance.
This isn't to pile on to Sanford, but I was thinking about a verse in Proverbs this morning, but saw another one that is perhaps more fitting. It should serve as a somber warning to all of us who are married, and, in particular, all of us who are believers.
"He who commits adultery lacks sense;
he who does it destroys himself."
In the end, though, praise God, there is STILL redemption and forgiveness.
I know that firsthand.
Posted by: Cathy | June 25, 2009 9:27 AM
She's a classy woman and a great role model for her sons as to what to look for in a wife in terms of dignity, respect and the ability to forgive.
I pray their marriage works and becomes stronger.
Posted by: Dirtdartwife | June 25, 2009 11:01 AM
Jenny Sanford seems rock solid. I pray that her husband truly repents and that their family can be re-built, stronger than before. Either way, she will be blessed for her willingness to reconcile and her commitment to raising godly sons.
Posted by: Elizabeth M Thompson | June 25, 2009 12:16 PM
she is amazing. wow.
Posted by: ruth | June 26, 2009 3:56 PM
She is a classy, beautiful woman.He doesn't deserve her.It's lovely and all that she's willing to reconcile, and I pray that's what happens but frankly I am so completely sickened by hearing one man after another espouse "family values" and claim to be on the moral side and then be found to be doing the most piggish things imagineable, secretly and hypocritically.Â Blech.
Posted by: Margaret | June 27, 2009 4:14 AM
What a mature, loving response. I'm not so sure I would have kept it all together as she can.
Also, this is an issue that needs to be worked out privately ..... infidelity is a hard enough mountain to conquer in private, much less without every thing sacred in your life being splashed everywhere in the media.
Posted by: Dianna | June 29, 2009 4:00 PM