May 11, 2013 11:58 PM

Day 194 and tomorrow is Mother's Day...

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Arrived home today at sunset and took this picture from our mailbox.  Jonny and I had come from Rochester, NY after seeing Ben's recital at Eastman where he is graduating this week with his Masters. This was the same 6 1/2 hr. journey Barbara had taken to come home to us six odd months ago, and then die. Jonny understood this and kept bringing it up and asking, "why Mommy die?"  At one point he said, "wish never been born...maybe Mommy live." I told him that Mommy was so happy that he was her son, like she was of all her daughters and sons. That none of her children were the reason that Mommy died.... that she was happy and grateful for all her children...that she loved and always wanted the best for each one....All along the way, I kept thinking about her last hours on that drive...how she called all her children and myself....filling her time with what was her greatest love and passion...her family.
 
Tomorrow will be a difficult bittersweet day for us... truly we have much to celebrate with the mothers in our family....but we all know that without Barbara and her life, none of this would exist. Amazing what a hole in the fabric that makes up the tapestry of a family one person can leave...To have lost Hattie as well...whose heart's desire was to be a mother, but never had the chance...is devastating.

Milestones continue to be reached with her children and grandchildren...New lives have come into our circle of life...and in spite of our sadness and sometimes despair...we have our Eternal perspective and the comfort of Our Father who has allowed us to feel some of the things He has felt....which is the reality of loss and the finality of death....
On this Mother's Day, I'm sure Barbara would want us to remember the important things....love of God with a longing for Heaven.... the importance of family ties and reconciliation.... the honoring of Mothers....and the gift of life....
Cherish each other always...

Jonny and Mommy.JPGIn His grip,
Papa Tripp




Love,
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Happy Mother's Day, Barb! Give the Blessed Mother and Big Hug and Kiss for me xo

Tripp,
You and your family will be in my prayers at Mass today. Also, thanksgiving for the time I had with Barb. I will also pray that the Blessed Mother hold all your sons extra close especially today.

Posted by: Eileen | May 12, 2013 4:23 PM

I feel that anything I could say would only ring hollow in the face of your family's continuing bereavement, so will offer,instead, the promise of my prayers.

Posted by: Judy | May 12, 2013 7:44 PM

Tripp, keep writing. Barbara has left you the enormous gift of the "fruit of her womb" and a blog to share the stories of the blessing thereof as well as the challenges, and how outside events intertwine with both. I did not always agree with her on her views, which she took as terrible insult, but really, even for those who do not agree, there is a lot to be learned. You have a different voice, some different views, yet the same base. Keep it going. Pull out some old chestnuts of hers and add to them. Revive some of her Amazon gems and how they are used. You have the ready material and audience and can add to it.

God Bless.

Posted by: Cath Young | May 13, 2013 10:14 AM

I thought of your family yesterday and kept you in my prayers. I have been missing Barbara as well. I hope to read her new book-what an amazing blessing.

I just wanted you to know that her legacy lives on. I reviewed a bit of " Lord, Please Meet Me in the Laundry Room" the other night. One of the last chapters focuses on " little extras", those things God uses to stretch us and grow us. This was just what I needed at this time in my life...
Barbara always encouraged us to trust the Father, and to take the risks that He gives us. I am in that place in my life right now... The risk taking, learning to trust God, and dealing with my own " little extras" that have happened in my own life. I just wanted you to know that Barbara is still blessing me and my life. Thank you again for sharing her with us.

Praying for your family as you grieve your losses, and rejoice over new life...

Lisa

Posted by: Lisa | May 13, 2013 10:55 AM

You family is dearly loved. Looking forward to heaven. Staying the course with you and yours for our time here on earth. Praising God for Barbara and Hattie!!

Posted by: Linda | May 13, 2013 5:24 PM

Tripp,
Thank you so much for continuing Barbara's work.
I have so enjoyed following Barbara's blog. Her motherly insight on education, politics,spirituality and Motherhood inspire me . Now I am graced to read your fatherly insight. Keep it up, please..... our world so badly needs your beacon of light. God Bless you and your beautiful family. Barbara must be so proud.

Posted by: Lizindc | May 14, 2013 12:19 PM

Thinking of your family and sending up prayers. Your words to cherish each other are so helpful to me today, a reminder that even when I'm in the throes of dealing with my ADHD child and want to give up, that we must hang on and always, always cherish our families.

hugs,

Jill

Posted by: Jill | May 14, 2013 12:46 PM

My heart goes out to you and your sweet family.

I have come to realize (and you may have heard this before - it's not original) that those big holes that are left in the tapestry of our lives and family when someone we love so much has gone on to Heaven, are the windows that allow us to see more of God's mercy and love. If we are able to see past the fabric of our daily work and the daily problems we face, especially after such a stong presence of the one we love is missing, we can see right through to the face of our saviour who will carry us through.

Praying for comfort for you as you bravely travel this journey set before you. God bless you and hold your hand every hour of every day.

Posted by: Anonymous | May 15, 2013 11:24 AM

Many of us would not have known Barbara, were it not for Jonny! He helped show us who she was.

Posted by: Julana | May 19, 2013 12:55 PM

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